Since we have switched to the new visitation schedule it has been more of a nightmare picking Ms. M up from her dad's then it usually was. I don't know if it is because she was used to being at his house for a good week at a time or if she is just taking a while to adjust to the frequency that she is staying with him. Either way it has been tough on her and it has been nothing short of a disaster every single night.
I am trying so hard to keep her on a set bed time schedule to hopefully help with us getting up earlier and her not getting a nap so much anymore but she gets thrown off when she goes to her dads house. I have been at my wits end and have shed many tears over this situation and her being a monster every single night. Just when things start to look up she sees her dad or goes to her dads and we start it all over again. It has been awful and so I have been praying and hoping that the transition will start to be better and it will be amazing!
When I pick her up she is usually sobbing because she doesn't want to leave her dad and I completely understand that. I would be lying if I said this alone doesn't make me upset because I want her to be happy to see me. Why would she be when her dads rules are very, very different from mine and she gets away with more? I have tried to make it easy on her to go from dads to moms by asking what they did and by saying what we will be doing. I feel like if she knows what we will be doing and making it exciting that she will be good with whats going on.
So I picked her up yesterday and she immediately ran to me and hugged my legs and as she hugged me her entire body began to tremble she was holding on so tightly. I told her what we'd be doing when we got home and she was so excited! She had two skinned knees and she told me what happened and then insisted on showing me where it happened, in the exact spot. She didn't try and run and being a wild Indian when it was time to go. She did want to play in her dads car but she cooperated when it was time to finally leave. She was content when we told her it would be three more nights and she would be staying at her dads again. She would be having a sleep party as she calls it! On our way home she was happy and eventually fell asleep.
Her falling asleep on the way home is always a little nerve wracking because I know I will eventually have to wake her up when we get home. She had eaten dinner at her dads but still needed a tub time. The half awake-half asleep state of a child can be very scary since you don't know if they will wake happy or angry at everything in sight. Luckily for me she was a sweet and caring girl! She was excited to take a tub time and when I said it was time to get out she was okay with that and put up little to no fight which is a miracle all in itself.
When I was getting her ready for bed she said she was hungry and I said she would be able to have a snack while I read her a couple books and scriptures. She chose blueberries for a snack and sat quietly while I read to her. We had gotten out of the habit of reading scriptures every single night with packing and moving and this past week has thrown a fit when I start reading her Book of Mormon reader and surprisingly she loved the story and wanted to look at the pictures and tell her own version after. We said prayer and gave loves and then she was off to dream land!
My prayers were answered last night in the biggest way possible! I thanked my Heavenly Father that he knew what I needed the most. I needed my child to not sass me and act meanly towards me. I needed her to go to bed easily, without a fight. I needed her to be her normal loving and caring self and she was. It made my night to know that she was happy and content. To know that she was okay and not upset and miserable. It was the blessing that I needed the most. Our Heavenly Father knows each and every one of us and he will answer your prayers in his own time and when we need it most. I am forever grateful for the night we had last night.
I love Ms. M so very much but it has been very difficult to deal with her when she is crying for hours at night over everything. I just was having a really difficult time with how bed time was turning out and how upset and miserable she was. She was becoming one of those kids that would need a drink, or need to go potty, or need a hug, need a kiss and although she had all of those things prior to lights going out she just wasn't wanting to settle. Then she would be waking up in the middle of the night needing to go potty again because she had drank water in the middle of the night. Last night she still said she needed extra hugs and extra kisses but she was okay when I went to finish up laundry.
Our doors are always open at night just in case she is scared in the middle of night and she needs me, I can hear when she calls for me. It was just more peaceful in my home and I could tell that I had more patience and the Spirit was still in our home. While we were saying prayer I was almost in tears because I was just so overwhelmed with gratitude that it was so peaceful and happy at bed time which has been the worst part of the day for both of us. So grateful for this little miracle that made my night so much better!